Today, I would like to discuss a little bit more of a serious topic. It comes from a recent personal experience that I would like to share with you.
I am, always have been and always will be. a little extra. ♥
My friends and family know this; I like to dress up for very casual situations, I love to wear a pair of heels with everything and even dressed down I kind of look like I’m dressed up. This is me. I have always been daring in my fashion choices and have never made any apologies for it.
A fairly new friend and I have been hanging out a little bit more than usual. She’s going through a tough break up and I am helping her. I’ve recently been noticing little comments here and there about how I’m dressed. At first, I thought they were nothing, just joking remarks and ignored them. But then, I realized that these joking remarks weren’t so joking after all. I was on my out of my house to go pick her up to drive to the store, and she texts me:
“Can I say one thing now and know that I love you and you are sexy gorgeous smart witty all of the above but we are going to dress like it’s a normal Sunday not nightclub correct?”
“Please don’t misineterpret it’s not my intention to try to tell you what to do or where if it makes you happy rocket.”
Now, I had to stop and think back on what outfit I recently wore around her that she could be referencing to as ‘nightclub attire’. We went out to the bar a little bit ago and before I came over she asked me if I was dressed up, to which I replied yes. She asked if I was in a skirt and I answered yes. It took her longer to get dressed then we actually spent at the bar and she ended up wearing the leopard print UNIF shawl that I brought with me without asking. The day before I wore a Free People dress that exposed my whole back, maybe that dress?
“Haha I’m in a dress. And why can’t I dress like I’m going to the club?” I replied, a little taken aback that we were actually having this conversation.
“Cuz sometimes it’s a little much”
“Friends tell friends the truth right” (This comment based off of a conversation we had the night before, were friends have to make the tough calls everyonce and a while and tell each other the truth no matter how much it hurts)
Never, ever, let someone else’s opinions dim your shine.
If you feel beautiful in something, regardless of what anyone says, wear it. Own it. You have to answer to yourself at the end of the day and no one else.
For some reason, society has made girls go after each other on the way we dress. Ladies, we cannot be jealous of each other and we cannot let our insecurities get the best of us. We need to love each other, regardless of whether we are a bit too much or a bit too little. We have to support each other, because no one else will if we don’t.
As for me, I’m going to keep on being a little too much, because that’s what I was born to do!
XOXO, Natasha 🙂